1 year sobriety!

Today is a big day for me!

1 year sobriety✨

This means a lot to me because 1 yr ago I didn’t know what my future would look like without alcohol.

When I gave it up completely, my mind & body went into panic. How would I survive without wine for the rest of my life?

I learned that I was so dependent on alcohol. I relied on it to cope with stress. I didn’t know how to cope with stress in healthy ways like exercising, prayer, yoga, running, meditating, reading a book, taking baths or talking to someone I could trust about my anxious thoughts, fears or concerns.

I didn’t know how to have fun at social events without a glass of wine in my hand. I thought I was more fun if I drank.

I worried about people not liking me anymore if I didn’t drink. I looked up at billboards & commercials they bombarded me with ads how alcohol was so fun . But they don’t talk about how alcohol ruins families and causes many deaths in the U.S.

People ask me “Reyna, I didn’t know you had a problem with alcohol, why did you stop drinking?” The truth is I stopped drinking bc alcohol ruined my life in so many ways. I was sick & tired of it controlling my life.

People around me drank to much and acted out in ways that were not safe and kind.

I saw loved ones in pain due to their loved ones drinking excessively.

I grew up hurt bc of it & started repeating the behavior & hurt people too bc I too abused alcohol.

I hurt my mind & body for putting alcohol in my system for so many years. Have you ever looked at the brain of someone that doesn’t drink and someone that does? It’s crazy! God has blessed me with this body to fulfill His plan here on Earth. I must treated it right & nourish it well. My body thanks me for letting go of those toxins. It also thanked me for getting my life healthy in so many ways. I now have boundaries for myself, what I will allow and not allow in my life.

Alcohol is no longer allowed to control me. It has no place in my mind, body or soul.

This is 1 of my biggest accomplishments. It’s a one day at a time process.

I celebrate myself today! It was not easy but so worth it!

Hurt people Hurt people, Healed people Heal people.

Which one are you?

In all honesty I have been both at some point in my life.

Today I am thankful because I continue to work on my healing. I have forgiven myself for the hurt I have caused others. Now I’m working on healing the hurt that was caused to me by others.

You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there!

Jeremiah 6:14

Hurt people walk in denial not wanting to face their hurt, addiction, or trauma.

Hurt people think time will heal all wounds. So they stay stuck in the grief, and allow it to isolate them.

Hurt people become defensive, self -protective and lash out at others.

Hurt people inflict their hurt and pain on other people.

Hurt people envy others that are living an abundant life.

Hurt people suffer deeply within themselves & their suffering spills over.

Hurt people don’t need punishment they need help.

Hurt people need the same grace and forgiveness that was extended to you.

Hurt people need boundaries set in order for them not to continue hurting you.

Hurt people have a choice to admit there faults so that they won’t continue to pass on the pain pattern that is passed on- generations after generations.

Now let’s talk about healed people.

Healed people, heal people.

Healed people admit their hurts, hang-ups and habits .

Healed people turn their pain over to God daily.

Healed people walk in grace.

Healed people stop trying to control people and circumstances.

Healed people make amends.

Healed people aim to be better than yesterday.

Healed people make time for prayer, self inventory and meditation.

Healed people set boundaries in order to guard their heart.

Healed people walk in freedom knowing whose they are.

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Healed people no longer wear a mask of denial.

Healed people don’t surpress their feelings they face them & rise.

Healed people stop accusing others for their pain.

Healed people take responsibility for their mistakes.

Healed people trust again.

Healed people recognize hurt people.

Healed people ask for help by someone they trust, a sponsor or accountability partner.

Healed people take responsibility for their own healing.

Healed people get healed and then go and help others.

Wishing for different circumstances?

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Do not waste your time and energy wishing for different circumstances.

Yes this season is hard, not fair, and can trigger so many emotions.

Instead trust God.

This is no surprise to Him.

If He brought us to this moment He will get us through it.

He promises us to be with us!

If you want He will even hold your hand. So be open to grab it.

When you pass through the waters I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. Isaiah 43:2

Be confident in who He is and whose you are!

Maybe, I was chosen to forgive?

“Maybe, I was chosen to forgive? ”

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Clinging to bitterness causes further wounding.

Some examples of that are uncontrollable anger, hate, digestive issues, body tension, headaches, isolation, on going grief, anxiety and fear. And hurting more people because of your past pain.

Have you ever heard the saying, “ Hurt people, hurt people and healed people, heal people”.

Which one do you prefer to be?

I know I prefer to be healed!

Choosing to forgive is to stop focusing on what others have done to us and focus on what Jesus has already done for us.

Forgiveness is being in the presence of our Heavenly Father.

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That is His nature. So to forgive is to be more like Him. We find salvation which gives us the confidence in knowing forgiveness is the key to living freedom from our past hurts.

Friend, we must move forward! It’s time to let go of what hinders our growth. To trust God with the pain. To pray for the willingness to forgive. No sin is to great (abuse, addiction, adultry, murder, stealing, lying) for Our Father, He is mighty and He will cleanse our heart from the pain that so easily cripples our spirit and entangles us in the cobb webs of hate and unforgiveness.

Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing. Luke 23:34

PRAYER

Heavenly Father, my heart is numb, my spirit is heavy. The hate in my heart is growing. Cleanse my heat and mind Lord. Make it obedient to your word. Give me the willingness to forgive my abusers, those that have hurt me. As well as the willingness to forgive myself for the pain I also caused to others. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins and the sins of others. You are a perfect example of choosing to forgive. Thank you for choosing me to offer the gift of forgiveness to others and myself. May they see your power in your forgiveness. I let go of the burden, I release _____ (person or the pain). I am a new creation free from my past. Ready for the abundant life you have called me to! A redeemed heart I have to give to others. My I walk in my calling to forgive so others can experience you. Jesus Name, Amen!

What you think about yourself matters!

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23 NIV

What others think about you doesn’t matter. But what you think about yourself matters most.

Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become your future.

If your constantly criticizing yourself. Constantly putting yourself down—Telling yourself your not able, or your not good enough, or fat, or your a bad mom, or a bad wife, or a bad friend.

Then your heart will signal to your mind and start to believe it, then your actions will align with the negativity that’s in your heart. Why? Because everything you do flows from it.

So instead fill your heart and mind with God’s truth about who your are in Him. Renew your mind with positive affirmations.

Important rule in life: You must believe in yourself.

Believe:

I am able to do anything with God’s strength.

I am a great mom!

I am an amazing friend!

I am creative!

I am a light in this world.

I am more than enough!

I have everything I need in life!

I am fit.

I am healthy.

I am strong.

I am loved.

I am brave.

I am Daughter of the King!

Comment below tell me which affirmations stood out most to you. Or a 🙏🏽 if this brighten your day.

XO, Reyna Elizabeth Morris